But John knows better because he's still married, and dating now would go against God's desires.

Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.

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Becky gently told her date that he needed to first pursue emotional and spiritual healing. But dating so soon will almost inevitably lead to heartache, since he's neither emotionally nor legally available.

She suggested that he develop relationships with other Christian men for support, rather than seek out women for emotional comfort. And, until he heals, he won't be able to relax and commit his entire heart to his new partner the way God intends.

Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).

If you start dating prematurely, you could be hurting — rather than honoring — those you date.The reasons why you decided to get a divorce has an impact on the chances of reconciliation.If a divorced couple lacked effective communication skills or lost the passion they once had, which caused the break up - reestablishment of the relationship could happen with some major work on the issues that were present during marriage.Don't wait to put some practical boundaries in place, such as not staying at your date's home overnight.You can also establish an accountability group made up of those who know and love you.In addition, with the continued connection between ex-spouses because of their children, some couples find they still do have feelings for each other after the turmoil from the separation subsides.